A miss- ...

I don't even know what I would call this situation. A miss-communication, misunderstanding, mislabeling, misrepresentation, I don't know, it may be one or all of those, but damnit something is amiss! I honestly can't figure it out and I don't think I ever will so it just is what it is and I'll have to leave it at that. On one hand I kind of feel a little hoodwinked. Like I've had the wool pulled over my eyes. Although really, going back to the whole gut thing, I always knew something wasn't quite right. I was missing something, or there was something I was seeing and just couldn't put a finger on what it was and why it didn't sit well. I still can't.. That ambiguity made me curious though cause I just had to fill in the blanks, but the reality is I should have just let the blanks be blank cause curiosity killed the cat.

How do I explain this? Say someone tells you for example that they live in a great neighborhood. That's all they tell you though. So you want to know how great this place really is. In my mind a great neighborhood would have to posses certain qualities or characteristics that make it great. Maybe it has a lot of amenities like shopping and good schools or whatever the case may be. Bottom line is there are certain things you would expect to find there, and then there are other things you would not expect, and be surprised if you did find them. Like you don't expect to see drug dealers or have a crack house in such a "great" neighborhood. Or have rundown buildings and trash all in the streets.Certain terminology sets expectations.And the only way to find out if something is what you have been told it is, is to go there and see for your self.

So I went there. I checked out the place. It seemed cool on the surface. But I still wasn't completely sold so I remained hesitant. It seemed like there was this one area around the neighborhood that everyone just sort of talked around and would never really tell me the real deal about it. And one day I happened to stumble upon this area for myself. It was filled with selfish disregard and detached indifference. This supposed "great" neighborhood was actually just a facade for a grimey ghetto.

Now who is to blame? The person who misrepresented the situation, or the person who believed them? Or are they both to blame? I feel like there is something to be said for really truly wanting to believe in someone. For me, it's like I want you to be right. I want everything to be as you said it is. That desire sometimes overshadows the gut feeling though. And then here is the problem, if you go with your gut then you become the bad guy because even if you are 100% right it's like, well you don't "KNOW" cause u have no "proof" and you are basically calling the other person a fraud or you're not giving them a chance. But if you wait til you have proof, whelp, guess what, it's STILL your fault cause you allowed yourself to get suckered. It's basically a lose lose and the hoodwinkers of course take no responsibility what so ever.

Now I don't have a problem with ghettos. But it doesn't mean I want to live there either. If it's the hood, say it's the hood. Then let me decide if I want to deal with it or not. Just keep it real, I can respect that.