I'm going to try and keep this to factual events and things that I would say to this person in person so I won't feel like I hope they never read this. Granted I only have one follower, but hey, you never know who is reading.
I'm going to start off by saying that I know I have a problem. I acknowledge that I have a low tolerance for people in general and that almost everyone will get on my nerves at some point or another for no real reason.I would never consider myself a people person and it amazes me I have any friends at all sometimes. Not sure how they put up with me and my moodiness. But I say that to say I know that part of this is me. That being said...
I cannot remember the last time my nerves were ever so trampled. Maybe in my old age I'm becoming even less tolerant than I was when I was younger. But whatever the reason is I have GOT to find a solution before I go crazy. Perhaps I need to take deep breaths or Wooo Saaah or something. I don't know, but I'm reaching my limit and I don't think being passive is going to solve anything.
Here's the situation. A certain individual, I'll refer to them as PM, has decided to dub me their new friend. If that's how PM feels, that's fine. But here is where I am struggling. PM calls me almost every day trying to hang out, come over or do something. Usually multiple times in that day. Most of the calls are missed calls. What I don't understand is 1.) if you call me say at 5:00 an no one picks up, then turn around and call at 5:06, still no answer. Then I get yet another missed call 30 minutes later, why then do you call a 4th time?!?! Just like PM and everyone else with a cell phone I do have caller id. If you call and I don't answer the first or second time, then you are supposed to wait for a call back. I think that is a general rule of cell phone etiquette (gotta be written down somewhere. Might have to find it). Not only that, but if there is something you really want to say so badly that you feel you gotta KEEP calling, they why not just text it to me? I will read a text loooooooong before I ever pick up the phone to call someone back. And 2.) Why u keep callin when you either don't want nothin, or I have already responded to what u callin me about.
Let's take yesterday for example, I got a call at 4:44, 4:48, 6:09 and 6:32 pm - all missed calls. Then I get a text. Finally PM realizes calling isn't getting anything accomplished. Around 7, PM text me about playing some pool or watching a movie. I think I talked to PM at some point prior to the txt msg though because originally the plan was to go play mini golf and I do recall speaking to PM. However whatever we were doing would be after PM got out of the spa or something like that. I'm like by the time u get out the spa i'mma be ready for bed. I get another call at 8:33 pm and this one I decide to pick up. PM asks me what I'm doing and I say I'm eating desert and then I'mma get ready for bed (imagine that!!). We have a small conversation in which at one point I say I'm going to block PM's number from my phone. Clearly PM though it was a joke, and it kinda was and kinda wasn't. Now I figure that since I said I'm bout to go get ready for bed, that was a clear indication that I'm done for the night. So I didn't expect my phone to be ringing any more. Even still I figured I'd try something out. I went on GoogleVoice and blocked the number anyway. Now since PM doesn't call my GV#, just my cell, I wasn't sure what would happen after I blocked it and got a call. I thought of txting LB to see if I could try it on her, but then I figured I'd just test it in the morning. I then turned the ringer off my phone just in case and laid out on the couch.
I prolly woke up a couple hours later and I decided to check my phone. Wouldn'tcha know I had 4 missed calls! The first one came at 9:51 and the last one was at 10:51. 3 showed up as from PM and the 4th was a private number but I suspect that was PM too. Not only that but I also had a txt asking what was wrong with my phone!!!
Shiiiiiid! I'll tell u what's wrong with my phone, YOU KEEP CALLING!!! WHEW! That's what I was thinking anyway. I still have no idea what this fool was calling me about at 10pm AFTER I ALREADY SAID I WAS GOING TO SLEEP!!!!! WTF?!?!?!?! GET OFF MY PHONE!!!
It's only been about 3 weeks that I have been dealing with this, but it seems like for ever. Every week at least twice a week if not more I get a call asking to either go to see a movie, grab something to eat, ask me if I'm cooking or to just hang out at my place. The first two I don't really have a problem with so much. Only thing is I been trying to save money lately so I have pretty much cut out almost all restaurant dining and movies. But then PM offers to pay and takes away my excuse. I don't really like PM paying for everything because I feel like I'm being bought and my friendship is not for sale. But then it's like if I don't say yes, PM just keeps asking and asking and asking, until I do which is why I don't answer the phone. So I guess part of that is my fault for not sticking to my no's and I need to do that more often. But with the second 2, I do have a problem with people inviting themselves over especially if they don't usually come over or have an open invitation. There are certain ppl who can pretty much swing by whenever, long as they give me a heads up, I don't mind at all. but these people can do that cause they ASK FIRST. PM never asks. PM tries to tell me I'm cooking or that my place is going to be their hang out spot. It's never do you mind if I come over for a little while and watch a movie. Then I might say yes...might.
Ok, I think I've vented enough. I'm going to get a little break because PM will be out of town. Hopefully I'll come up with a solution during this time.
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